get a job!!!!!!
Driving home listening to Dave Ramsey yesterday. A lady calls in who is having financial struggles and about to go into foreclosure, five months behind on the house payment. Household income is 32000, plus a recent raise that will bring it to 36 or 38. Either way. She is a stay at home mom. They have a 20000 car note and one other large loan bill. The house is an 80/20 loan that is around 80 something…payments were 500 and 200 each month. Car payment was about 400. As you can read, way over extended. Bringing home only 2000 a month they were stretching it constantly. The obvious solution to me is get another job. Get two incomes coming in. Well what about being a SAH? so? Stay at home during the day and go to work in the evening when hubby gets home? Dave’s solution was hubby start delivering pizza’s every night, work two jobs. I have to ask why is that the only solution? Why not tell the mother to go out and get a job too? She can still stay home with kids during the day. With dad working two jobs his kids will never see him. Men are fully capable of keeping the kids alive…well at least mine is and I’m sure all can learn. I don’t get it! Why do without? Why seek government assistance? Why struggle so? when you could just get a job and make things just a little easier? That, IMO, is laziness. Yes, I understand gender roles…*imagining home improvement grunting in the background* but I don’t understand not being willing to do whatever it takes to make things work! Why should the man have to work 2 and 3 jobs while the woman stays at home? Granted being a SAH is not easy. I spent the few minutes she was talking to Dave yelling at the radio. She wanted a $75000 a year life on a $32000 a year income. I find it highly irritating when those spouting how wonderful they are for staying at home mooch off the system or whine about their economic plight. If you can afford it and want to, stay at home it will be an awesome experience. If you can’t afford it then find a way to work evenings while you stay at home during the day, the kids will benefit from alone time with daddy. No reason to make one member of the family work two or three jobs just so you can have your cake and eat it too. It doesn’t make you a better person. The better person is one who makes sure the family needs are met, and the kids are happy and healthy.
I have to wonder why Dave always suggests the husband get a second job. Just philosophy I guess. I would have told her to get rid of the $20000 car and get something you can actually afford, take a retail job in the evenings to supplement income, or see if their was a job that could be done from home. Help ease the stress and not cause more by expecting more out of your husband.
rant over.
November 19 2005 10:30 am | Ramblings
